It is really strange how a person can go from talking to their roommate everyday for years in college and then not talk to them for years afterward. It is really sad what happens to our lives and our relationships when we become "grown ups". I know I can't be the best friend to everyone that I have shared a laugh with along the way, but it is sad to think I don't have time to reach out to people that were really important in my life at one time. I only talk to two of the five guys that stood up for me in my wedding (on a regular basis) for heaven's sake, one of them is my brother. Is this my fault? Is it theirs? How does this happen? If I were to call them would we have anything to say more than "yeah, I worked this week, same old stuff".
When my life became fuller due to an addition of a wife, son, house, and job, did everything else become empty? Do I multiply my love when new things come into my life or do I divide it? Is there a finite amount of love a person can feel, if one person takes more of your love does someone else get less? I want to say no,.... But it feels as though I divide sometimes.
I have/had a friend named Webby in college that I lived with and hung out with everyday. I spent thanksgiving with him, he stood up for me in my wedding. We were two peas in a pod. Great guy, I have never had a bad thing to say about him. So, why after moving 5 hours away and starting life after college, have I only called him about once every six months? Would it matter if I lived five minutes away? Is distance the only thing separating us or is it something bigger. It is not just Webby, it is all the people that have meant something to me in my life. My old soccer buddies, my old college teammates, my high school friends, the list goes on for all of us.
I am sorry if this blog has left you with more questions than answers, that wasn't what I was getting at. If you have any answers, let me know.
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I'll tell you why...because you don't call people. You only call people when there is the option of them hanging out with you. We are guys...we don't really chat on the phone much.
yeah, i am not really a big fan of the phone. it is just sad how people lose touch though. inavitable i suppose.
A wise person once told me that your life is like a pie and you have to slice it up according to what events/people are going to be the biggest pieces of your pie. I have noticed that a few years ago I had things in my pie that are not there anymore. They have just lost the importance that they used to. Now that I have a family, house, bills, jobs, you name it things that used to be important just aren't anymore. Hate to admit it but we are getting older. I have learned one thing when it comes to friendship and growing up: It doesn't matter the time or distance the real friends in your life never really leave your thoughts. They are always with you even if they can not physically be there.
A wise person once told me that your life is like a pie and you have to slice it up according to what events/people are going to be the biggest pieces of your pie. I have noticed that a few years ago I had things in my pie that are not there anymore. They have just lost the importance that they used to. Now that I have a family, house, bills, jobs, you name it things that used to be important just aren't anymore. Hate to admit it but we are getting older. I have learned one thing when it comes to friendship and growing up: It doesn't matter the time or distance the real friends in your life never really leave your thoughts. They are always with you even if they can not physically be there.
Anonymous, you are right. my closest friends are always a photo album away. I captured a lot of good memories on 35mm. I will never for get those days man. I have lost many summers, but gained many friends along the way. I hope my pie slices never get cut too thin.
by the way, who are you?
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you will know exactly what to do.
Some people come into our lives and quickly go..
Some people become friends and stay awhile...
leaving beautiful footprints on our hearts...
and we are never quite the same
because we have made a good friend!!!
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life.
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sad, sad, what can i say. but the comment that Kaysea left was pretty dang deep!!
Oh no- I meant it to be inspirational and not sad. My bad.
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